Why Write A Divorce Planner? {With Your Exes Ex…}

Writing a book is wonderful – putting something out there that is thought provoking, thought releasing, thought anything is a dream come true for any writer at heart.  Now combine all of that and add in a dash of “much needed” and you have The Ex-Wives’ Guide to Divorce.

Exes to the same man, both Valerie Shepherd and Holiday Miller knew there was a hole in the market despite there being a huge need.

Valerie distinctly remembers the first time she googled “Divorce Planner Book”.  She was starting the proceedings of divorce and felt beyond lost.  And we all know hell hath no fury like a woman who doesn’t know what comes next…  Because she trusted her wedding planner to get her down the aisle, she thought she would again find a tool to clue her into everything she needed to prepare, keep her on task, fill her in on what to expect, and give tips on how to survive the emotional roller coaster lying ahead this time for divorce.

And you know what?  Hardly any results surfaced for an actual book.   

Almost nada, 

nilch, 

none.

All of these advertisements popped up for professional Divorce Planners, divorce party planners {which of course she saved that link}, but no real results for an actual divorce planner book. 

So then she popped on over to Amazon thinking for sure she would find hundreds of divorce planners appearing page after page in eye popping colored book jacket photos on the screen in front of her.  But again, about a handful of actual divorce planners written by attorneys and psychologists in a legal and factual / depressing / I’m going to eat another pint of ice-cream tone.   

Not one shiny happy cute cover so I might actually want to read this planner 

by somebody who has been through it and survived divorce and is here to help you as well.   

Yes, we’re currently looking into getting a TM on that phrase. 

Although planning for divorce would not be as happy and shiny as a wedding planner, it would certainly help any woman get to a happier and shinier future for her about to be single self if she could just get organized. 

So then Valerie typed in the search bar on Amazon Wedding Planners, just out of curiosity.  And guess what…  Over 16,000 results populated!!!  Yes, divorce planner yielded about 70 of which maybe 4 or 5 were actual divorce planners / organizers and wedding planner produced over 16,000 books in print.  Something had to be off here.

Fast forward a few months to when Valerie met Holiday {her Exes soon-to-be Ex #2} and Holiday noticed Valerie had made her own binders just as she did to help navigate divorce.  This got the two Ex-Wives’ thinking.  Why was there nothing out there for women facing, contemplating, entering, or in the middle of divorce?  Where was this missing MUCH NEEDED tool?!? 

Flash forward a few months even further to a beach trip the two of us took with the kiddos {Valerie’s son and Holiday’s two girls}.  One fateful night during our quick getaway we started talking about how far we had both come thanks to the help of each other, and the planners we essentially made ourselves.  And eureka!!!  The question came quickly…   

Why don’t we write and create  

the book we wish we both had during our divorces 

to help women successfully navigate divorce?

Call it paying it forward.  Call it making lemonade out of lemons.   Call it whatever you want to call it but we both suddenly felt charged to help the millions of women out there that deserved not only a friend to hold their hand during this tough time, but guide them down the path to a successful divorce.  And if it saves women some time, money, or sanity while putting a smile on their face…  Well then we will consider it a huge success.

xo, V and H